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You're absolutely right, Lee.  I've always been a non-smoker, but I keep ashtrays around for any friends who might like to light up - it is amazing now how many have given up the weed, though!  I would also always make sure that any veggie pals who are visiting are taken to restaurants where good veggie dishes are available, too.  There's just no need for people to make smart-arse remarks about other people's preferences, is there?  I have an odd drink on social occasions now, or wine with a meal out with pals.  I maybe have a drink by myself once or twice a year! 

I don't think you can do anything for friends who are heading off the rails with drink or drugs, though.  I think a 'tough love' stance is best, in that you'll see them, go out with them up to a point, but not go along with them once they start to go too far.  A friend of mine 'rescued' his best mate several times from drugs overdoses, until one day he just said 'I'm not going to keep doing this for you', and his pal decided that the friendship was worth more than the heroin habit, and went into rehab.  It lasted for several years, but foolishly - and after becoming a very good drugs counsellor - he had a hit one night which overwhelmed his now clean system and died in his 30's.  You can only do so much, and go so far, then it's really every man for himself.