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Selling A Home

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Lee Chater

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Just bought a property and have put my present home on the market at a realistic price. Had the first viewer yesterday, a widower who liked everything and couldn't fault the place.
He arrived at 2pm and eventually went at 6.30pm !! we agreed a price and he was keen to instruct a solicitor blah blah blah, rang this morning 8.45 to tell me he has changed his mind :o
 
Don't despair, Lee. You may have alot of people around that say all the right things, and you may never hear from them again. There are an awful lot of time wasters and nosey people just wanting to have alook around. Unfortunately, this sometimes goes with the territory.
 
His wife had died 4 years ago and he admitted that she did everything and made all the decisions, he said that when he got home and looked around the mess he had around him, he couldn't face the prospect of moving.

Of the 4.5 hours I spent with him, at least half of that was counselling.
 
Selling houses, Lee, is a depressing business - isn't it meant to be one of the most stressful things we ever do?

Must admit to only looking at purchasing once the current property is sold beyond recall - can't deal with the added stress of juggling chains and solicitors etc etc !!
 
I managed to avoid that Songsheet because I was able to buy without needing to sell mine first.
I will have the keys to our new home in the middle of the Yorkshire Wolds in approx 4/5 weeks time, the plan is to live where we are until we sell whilst making progress updating the new place.
 
Lee, if you feel the moribund widower could be a goer if he could just wade through the mess at his own place, you could tell him that there are firms which will do house clearing for him. Seriously. He's probably gone from shock and grief to a 'don't know where to start' situation. If he's not supported by friends and family, or they've got fed up with him, then total strangers coming in and sorting out your stuff is the next best thing. They'll charge, of course, but they'll also ensure that items are tipped legally or given to charity.

Sounds like he wants a fresh start, but just can't find the starting point! These people are in the Yellow Pages, and if he has a bit of spare dosh, a 'Ladies That Do' service to do a whole spring clean will probably cost him around £100. That would at least start the springboard for the new life he's probably convincing himself he should be making, four years on.

Also, if he hasn't quite got through the grieving process, there are bereavement counsellors with (if he's over 50) Help the Aged, Age Concern, and so on - also in the phone book. As you found out, it's often much easier for the bereaved (even if it's not that recent) to talk with a stranger than family. Just a thought, anyway.
 
Much of what you say is true K but the motivation is not there.
He saw and responded to an advert that asked if people want to sell their property for cash, guy went down and offered him £140K which was accepted without question !!!

After leaving me, he went to see his two daughters who were in his words ' over the moon for him '

Buying a property is a big decision and one that he is not capable of making.
As Brian said ' it is sad '

slightly off topic, I do believe that when one of us passes away, it would be better if the man went first, I strongly believe that women are much stronger mentally and able to cope better on their own.
 
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