A Sensitive Question For Our Gentleman Members.

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Mr GG is booked in for a vasectomy next month. He is more than a shade nervous. His dad is telling him horror stories about how much it hurts whereas my dad said it wasn't that bad. Any words of wisdom from the men on here? No dramatisations please, he's nervous enough as it is :lol:

The other thing that concerns him is on the letter he received it says he has to shave his bits the day before. He thinks it'll be impossible to shave his sac without causing major bloodshed. Is there a good way of doing it? I suggested hair removing cream but he says he doubts that can be used on 'sensitive areas'.
 
Well I had it done in the stone!! age (two housebricks,...... THE SURGEON HAD TO WATCH HE NEVER CAUGHT HIS THUMBS IN THE BRICKS OBVIOUSLY... drop your cacks and bang and its all over in a second :o :lol: ) and I went to work in the morning, as well the time I had it done 8pm.................. :rolleyes:
 
A friend of mine had it done, and said the worst bit was the regrowth of the hair....... Do NOT use hair removing cream 'down there'. The knack (I think) is to keep the skin as tight as possible, and use a new blade ;) - just don't ask how I know :D
 
A friend of ours had it done recently, more sore than painful was the general view!
also he used hair removing cream but you must get the type that us ladies use for the bikini line area ;) apparently the swelling can be quite interesting :lol:
 
I disagree about using a new blade. It´s more likely to cut yourself with it.
A couple of times used one is the best you should use.
As most painful experiences, the more positive minded you are about it , the better. It´s not that painful .
 
Well it helps if someone used to such tasks does the shaving, luckily Mrs Geezer is a nurse. It didn't hurt one bit and I drove home fifty miles straight afterwards and played cricket the next day. You do get trussed up mind :D

The best bit is still to come (no pun intended), producing the sample for testing a few weeks later :P :P
 
Griffin

I understand that the biggest downsides are ( a) 10-15% of men who have it done have testicular pain for the rest of their life - nasty (B) that it isn't infallible © that reversal is difficult though new techniques have improved results .

I think that the big thing about vasectomy is to ask yourself the question - can i envisage any circumstances in which i would want to have any other children . If you can be certain that the answer is no fine - if not don't do it .

My uncle has regretted it massively his second marriage was destroyed by the fact a reversal failed . This is always a delicate point with female partners of those to be vasectomised as most vasectomies take place when relationships are solid but life is never easy to predict and friends of mine battled to conceive eventually after a reversal after his first wife had died .
 
My dad had it done when I was about 10 and and sneaked up to the window and could see him with all green cloths around him on the slab-it was a castle like building.
He said it was horrible when the doc cut something and the nerve pain went down to his foot, brewed and went to his brain in seconds and was the most painful thing he ever felt.
F**k that...I'd rather the C.S.A
 
Originally posted by Ardross@Aug 5 2006, 11:34 PM
I understand that the biggest downsides are ( a) 10-15% of men who have it done have testicular pain for the rest of their life - nasty (B) that it isn't infallible © that reversal is difficult though new techniques have improved results .

My uncle has regretted it massively his second marriage was destroyed by the fact a reversal failed . This is always a delicate point with female partners of those to be vasectomised as most vasectomies take place when relationships are solid but life is never easy to predict and friends of mine battled to conceive eventually after a reversal after his first wife had died .
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I didn't know about point A, I'll read up on that. As for B, I couldn't care less if it fails :P I'd be happy to have another baby but he is more determined than ever to put a stop to reproducing. It took three years of nagging to get him to agree to a fourth. Hell will freeze over before he agrees to a fifth! Point C wouldn't interest him at all.

can i envisage any circumstances in which i would want to have any other children . If you can be certain that the answer is no fine - if not don't do it

As above, I wouldn't totally rule out having any more, but he would. When he wanted it done a few years ago his GP asked him if he did go through with it and one or all of the children were killed in an accident, would he want more children and he said it wasn't worth thinking about. I don't think the possibility of loosing one or all of them is a good enough reason not to have it done.

He doesn't want any more children with anyone, ever, even if I died or we split up. He's quite certain about that. Although we cannot predict the future, I can't envisage us splitting up. We fight like cat and dog at times and I think that if we were going to split up it would've been before now. I honestly don't think he could put me through more crap than he already has done :lol:

If I put my sensible head on I know that four children is enough for us and as the most fertile woman on earth, something permanent needs to be done. And while the possiblilty of another is there, I'm going to want to exploit it. If that carrot is taken away, hopefully I can turn my attentions to something else.
 
A chap I dated years ago had it done after his wife had a terrible first birth and said she'd divorce rather than have another. This was back in the 1970s and he said he felt as if he'd been kicked in the groin for the first day, and threw up a bit. After that, right as rain (though the marriage wasn't).
 
Originally posted by Ardross@Aug 6 2006, 12:34 AM
I think that the big thing about vasectomy is to ask yourself the question - can i envisage any circumstances in which i would want to have any other children . If you can be certain that the answer is no fine - if not don't do it .

My uncle has regretted it massively his second marriage was destroyed by the fact a reversal failed . This is always a delicate point with female partners of those to be vasectomised as most vasectomies take place when relationships are solid but life is never easy to predict and friends of mine battled to conceive eventually after a reversal after his first wife had died .
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Fair enough Ardross - but you also have to think about the woman involved here too. A lot of health authorities will refuse to sterilise a woman of young age and it is a more complicated procedure than a vasectomy. So, should it really be the woman's repsonsiblity to deal with the birth control - especially when that tends to mean a lifetime on drugs which aren't guaranteed to work in the first place - I know at least half a dozen friends who have fallen pregnant whilst on the pill. I'm sure no married couple would look forward to the prospect of using condoms for the rest of their lives either!!

The other point is that of older men and younger girlfriends - as we all know, men can often tend to be susceptible to the old "mid life crisis" whereby they ditch their wives that they've been with for years and go off with a younger piece of skirt who is more than likely after the financial security an older man can provide. How many times does it happen that the new bit on the side either "accidentally" falls pregnant or pressures the guy to have more kids when they don't really want them at this advanced stage? I've been trying to get my Dad to have the op for at least 5 years now!! :lol:
 
True there are many kinds of angles to approach . In this case Griffin is not the driving force behind no more kids - in many cases women are and that makes it particularly difficult . Sterilisation is much more invasive and in most cases not an option at all .
 
My husband had it done for various reasons and he had a terrible experince. He couldn't have it done under a local anaesthetic as the doctor couldn't find one of his tubes. It meant he had to go into hospital and have it done under a general anaesthetic so they could have a good look around :o . He was quite ill afterwards and when he came home, he had to have a district nurse visit to monitor him. The area resembled an aubergine patch :o ! He needed a week off work and could have done with longer.

He's fine now and he doesn't regret it (I don't think). However, I don't think he would want to go through it again. Please don't ask if I feel guilty. I've experienced childbirth and that ain't pleasant either!
 
I had mine at the tender age of 28(because my ex had womans troubles and I volunteered to have it done instead of her I have 3 children from that marriage) then got divorced @ 40 so I could not father any more(if I had a new lady friend who wanted a child) unless I had it reversed which is touch and go and expensive....

p.s.
I snapped a tooth off (next to the eyetooth) on one side on Monday of this week phoned Dentist and had it out on Thursday... this was more painful and took as long to get out and more painful since having it out too........... :angy:
 
I'm feeling inspired :lol: I went to a funeral yesterday of a close family friend. I had always known Sheila came from a large family, but never knew quite how large. During the ceremony it was said that Sheila had twelve sisters and two brothers!

I've also had a small bet with my dad. I said I bet him a million pounds Mr GG doesn't go through with it because of his fear of needles :D
 
Originally posted by Raksha@Aug 5 2006, 02:03 PM
The knack is to keep the skin as tight as possible
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Originally posted by Griffin@Aug 5 2006, 11:12 PM
If that carrot is taken away, hopefully I can turn my attentions to something else.
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Surely an unfortunate choice of word here, Griffin ? B)

Tell the grumpy one not to be such a wuss - OK, so it may hurt for a couple of days but if he genuinely is the one who doesn't want any more children (and I am probably with him in thinking four is a perfect number!!), then il fait souffrir etc etc.

And he ought to think on about the fact that you've four beautiful girls, a still broody wife and no son and heir...... pressure or what!!
 
Originally posted by Ardross@Aug 6 2006, 10:32 AM
True there are many kinds of angles to approach . In this case Griffin is not the driving force behind no more kids - in many cases women are and that makes it particularly difficult . Sterilisation is much more invasive and in most cases not an option at all .
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My sister nearly died having her second kid and my b-i-l had the snip after that. He said it was easy as kiss your hand. I think any man who is over c45 and has had kids AND an expensive divorce would be well advised to get his vas deferens snipped. Who can afford one family these days, let alone two?

I spent years trying to get doctors to tie my tubes, as I never wanted any children. They were convinced I'd change my mind but finally relented when I was 41 and had to have an infected coil removed. I never regretted it, tho I did seem to have an early menopause - don't know if that was related.
 
There you go, Griffin. I'm sure Mr Grumpy will appreciate the vas deferens the op will make to his peace of mind!
 
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