Family Affairs

Originally posted by Kotkijet@Apr 16 2006, 02:18 AM
I figured I should start a thread where people can share their stories about how their family ----- them up so much. I'm sure that with anonomity and sympathetic ears, we can get off our chests what annoys us most about our nearest and dearest and get us to have a different perspective on things.
You know the answer though, don't you K? Move abroad. It's a fantastic way of escaping from the trials and tribulations of family life! :D

No, serriously, I moved abroad 3 years ago and it was the best thing I ever did - I had to get away from the country and all the shite that was going on in the family. Chances were that if I'd have stayed I wouldn't be on talking terms with my dad!!

On a similar note to yours, the only time I have seen my brother violently angry was when he slammed my dad up against the wall one day to threaten him not to hurt/upset/screw over my mother during their divorce.
 
Couldn't agree more Krizon, all people who beat kids should be made to burn in the lowest circle of hell

and I for one hope that you are employed to watch the gates (just look away when its my turn to be judged!!!)
 
who beat kids should be made to burn in the lowest circle of hell

I personally am open to the idea of redemption, change and forgiveness. I wouldn't like me oul' Mum to be burning for eternity because she disciplined me for stealing - in the way that was in the manner of her times.

Everything need not be apocalyptic.
 
My parents hit me, i agree there should be degrees, i was referring to sustained and serious beatings, rather than a clip round the ear or a spanking
 
Originally posted by krizon@Apr 19 2006, 11:31 AM
DO - if you read from your original posting to here, you'll find you've done exactly what brutalized women and battered children have done since time began: you've tried to rationalize away your father's wretched behaviour. There IS NO EXCUSE.
I'm not saying there is necesarily an excuse but there are very probably reasons for his behaviour.

I myself am trying to live up to what is being taught to children in Catholic schools nowadays, namely that we should condemn the transgression but not the transgressor.
 
Is authoritarianism (Jeez... I've had a long, hard day, did I spell that coreckly?) likely to give rise to the use of physical force, more than a libertarian viewpoint? It seems that so often, people recount childhoods fraught with beatings, cruel punishments (isolation in cupboards, not being fed for the night, etc.), when the parent was either in a position of authority or adhered 'strictly' to this or that code or belief.

I'm wondering about it because my best riding and school chum was, along with her two sisters and brother, regularly hit by her large, charmless, often drunk, detective father. We were enjoying another friend's 11th birthday party when this man came to collect my pal and take her home. We hadn't actually managed to finish the birthday cake and he said, very roughly, "Come on, Betty. Home. Now." She turned to him and said, "Okay, just a minute, I'm finishing the cake." With that, he slapped her so hard across the face, in front of everyone, that her head snapped back and she half fell over. His eyes were bulging and he went very red and yelled, "You'll come when I say so! Now get out to the car!"

She didn't cry, she just bit her lip, put her head down, and went. I was appalled beyond belief at this display. I thought that policemen, as 'authority', were supposed to be protectors, helpers, people you'd go to if you were in trouble. It was no wonder that she loathed her father and also had little respect for her mother in those days, since the mother was often absent sitting on committees, and keeping away from the constantly tense home situation.
 
You are all getting upset about feck all. In the old days most parents whacked their children now and again as it was thought that was the way to do it. The only thing that's changed is it's no longer thought to be the way to do it. It's a bit like fashion. You've got to remember that most people's morals aren't based on what's right, they're based on what will make them appear to be right. Otherwise we wouldn't have Aushcwitz type slaughterhouses dotted around the country. To most people, a good person is someone who would do well in PR.
 
Originally posted by BrianH@Apr 19 2006, 06:42 PM
Not just nowadays, surely - I seem to remember something about "Hate the sin, love the sinner"
Curiously enough, Brian, Mrs Orchid mentioned that the other day but I don't remember it mentioned in my school. Then again, I probably wasn't paying attention. (And I feel really guilty about that <_< )
 
Originally posted by Bar the Bull+Apr 20 2006, 10:43 AM--></div><table border='0' align='center' width='95%' cellpadding='3' cellspacing='1'><tr><td>QUOTE (Bar the Bull @ Apr 20 2006, 10:43 AM)</td></tr><tr><td id='QUOTE'> <!--QuoteBegin-Honest Tom@Apr 20 2006, 09:17 AM
To most people, a good person is someone who would do well in PR.
Agreed.

But you are only into this vegetarianism and anti-corruption in racing mularkey because you think it'll get you laid. [/b][/quote]
:lol: By a sheep maybe.
 
It's Auschwitz, HT, and will there be any topic on which you won't feel obliged to haul out that old chestnut? :brows: I'm sure Jewish survivors will be impressed to be likened to a side of beef.

Thought for the Day: Save a cow - eat a vegetarian.
 
Originally posted by krizon@Apr 20 2006, 08:35 PM
It's Auschwitz, HT, and will there be any topic on which you won't feel obliged to haul out that old chestnut? :brows: I'm sure Jewish survivors will be impressed to be likened to a side of beef.

Thought for the Day: Save a cow - eat a vegetarian.
That's it. I'm just going to commit suicide now 'cos of you. :cry:
 
Goodbye, goodbye, we wish you all goodbye -
Goodbye, goodbye, goo - say, would you like a nice pork sausage before you go?
 
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You're a hard woman Kri and would've went a long way in the camps.
 
I apologise. That was crass, if not cruel. Goodbye, dear. We'll miss you. :cry:













But could you manage a couple of chicken thighs, perhaps?
 
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