My daughter and I

[an capall]

Parenting is only about giving values and setting context. The decisions aren't yours. When mine were stretching on and I was stressed Mrs AC always said "Its our job to let them go. Its their job to come back."

I always thought that the second truest thing she ever said.

 

[montyracing2]

I trust my daughter implicitly, she did tell me that although we have an interesting relationship she feels that compared to most of her friends it is a good one and that she probably has had much more freedom than most.

My chief concern was that the gap year would have a detrimental effect on her ambition to become a doctor and that because all of her offers were demanding ones she might have had to go through clearing in the week following her results (her planned Ibiza trip).

My other concern is that she cleared up loose ends before she left (Uni accomodation, finance, new laptop etc).

It left me uneasy that she had not quite grasped the importance of forward planning. Together with the added complication that she seemed to be accepting iffy advice over the advantages of a gap year gave me grounds for concern.

MR2

 

[Sheikh]

Tell her to stay away from the likes of Bar.

 

[Sara]

Very reassuring!

LOL - that did occour to me... but it's important she is aware that public transport [buses, v frequent] and taxis will be a lot safer than dodgy lifts at this time of year. Some of the Brits who have been drinking or doping forget which side of the road they are supposed to be on

 

[Desert Orchid]

Parenting is only about giving values and setting context. The decisions aren't yours. When mine were stretching on and I was stressed Mrs AC always said "Its our job to let them go. Its their job to come back."

I keep telling Mrs O the same thing.

 

[trackside528]

If she's given you no (major) reasons to think otherwise, Montyracing, it really does come down to a case of do you trust her. I know mates who would have had no problem going to Ibiza at 15, having a great laugh and not getting in a spot of bother. Then there are others who even now (early twenties) shouldn't be let loose on their own. Different levels of maturity really.

 

[trudij]

I went to Ibiza a few years back, stayed on a hotel in Portinax (sp) which is the quiet side of the island. It was absolutely stunning, beautiful beaches,lively enough bars about for ourr liking (though we also made "friends" with the barman(me) and head waiter (my friend - oh yeah - we know who to befriend... )

Can totally recommend Ibiza as a holiday destination - but I think we did it right by staying on the quieter side. (we had LOTS of drunken excursions though, but thats diferent!!)