Age of Reason

Hamm

Hamm

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The age when freedom slips away, according to Sartre, typically taken by pairing off, procreating or buying a house. Meant to occur around the age of 30.

I am entering it (or entered it 9 months back) with a now different set of circumstances (or no circumstances (woman), if you like). French conversation exchange in time had better take care of that.

At the same age, you find the answers to all your friend's replies when asking if they fancy a pint over the weekend start with their girlfriend's (lets call her Mary) name 'Mary's friend is having...', 'Mary's family are going out for...', 'Mary's postman's friends's...'.

Why do guys become such a bunch of saps at this age (did/will you?), and should you really give up everything during this age of reason, and settle?
 
I'm 28 this year and know what you mean. I'm living with a girl who is unbelievably easing going but even she put the foot down after day seven of a week off bender last week. I felt like a sap going home when the session was just getting going at 10pm having been in the pub since 4.30.

You can't have it all I suppose!

Off course I was back out at 10.45....



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Gearoid said:
I'm 28 this year and know what you mean. I'm living with a girl who is unbelievably easing going but even she put the foot down after day seven of a week off bender last week. I felt like a sap going home when the session was just getting going at 10pm having been in the pub 4.30.

You can't have it all I suppose!

Off course I was back out at 10.45....
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I'm 28 and live everyday like a 21 year old. I have no mortgage, no car and a hot girlfriend. How long have I got left?
 
I love watching thr 6 nations. I love football too but there are always a few more tools in the pub for that. Main bunch of buddies and I always meet up for 6 nations games, usual pub in Wandsworth, and it's basically an optional bite at lunchtime, then beers watching 2/3 rugby games. Go for a curry afterwards if all still well. Not only has 2/3 games become 1, but most of them now bring their girlfriends. They don't even like rugby. So, instead of having a chat about the games, a bit of banter and a few beers, you have to ask their gf how things are with them. Just what you want. They are then made leave shortly after the game is finished.
 
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So, instead of having a chat about the games, a bit of banter and a few beers, you have to ask their gf how things are with them. Just what you want. They are then made leave shortly after the game is finished.
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Nothing worse. I automatically transform into the all smiling, polite, thoughtful and great listener that I'm not when there are other people's girlfriends, or my girlfriend's mates around. It's a terrible a affliction on a man and I don't even realise I'm doing it.
 
I'm 25, no house, no car, no bus pass, no girlfriend just loving living on the coast, going out and going racing when time/money permits - working on the girlfriend part but waiting for right lass (has to have own car, like washing/ironing/cleaning and be into equal rights - doesn't mind buying me drinks!).

Btw the answer to the "Mary's coming down too...." is "make sure she brings a hot mate - and not the one from last time, she was a boring cow".

Bar that life sounds perfect Hamm :)
 
Gearoid said:
Nothing worse. I automatically transform into the all smiling, polite, thoughtful and great listener that I'm not when there are other people's girlfriends, or my girlfriend's mates around. It's a terrible a affliction on a man and I don't even realise I'm doing it.
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If you were pinocchio you'd be in serious trouble now. I've heard about those nights down the pubs of Cork...
 
I have changed utterly.

I drink 70% less than I did when I was 27.
I take 100% less Class A drugs.
I have been told by my friends that I am less craic.
I have dropped out of my soccer team. Even before I dropped out of the team, I wasn't as good as I don't have time to keep fit.
Weekends away need to be booked at least a month in advance.
Nights out need to be booked at least a week in advance.
When I do go away / out, I find it difficult to stay awake past two o'clock. I often head back to the hotel / gaff for a night's sleep.
 
Is there anything worse than someone who says 'I have a pass!'.

As if they are lucky to be let out.
 
Bar the Bull said:
I have changed utterly.

I drink 70% less than I did when I was 27.
I take 100% less Class A drugs.
I have been told by my friends that I am less craic.
I have dropped out of my soccer team. Even before I dropped out of the team, I wasn't as good as I don't have time to keep fit.
Weekends away need to be booked at least a month in advance.
Nights out need to be booked at least a week in advance.
When I do go away / out, I find it difficult to stay awake past two o'clock. I often head back to the hotel / gaff for a night's sleep.
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Most of that sounds reasonable..

Apart from being less craic (unless that is linked to the class A drugs!)

Drinking less not that bad a thing.
Less Class A drugs always a good thing (it catches up with you, and that vulnerable paranoid feeling for days afterwards is no good at all)
You should sort out the football - you're not so old you still couldn't make it
At least you are allowed weekends away
I haven't been out later than 2 in ages. That's where I find England massively different to Ireland though..
 
Lads, if I can't get a pint in my local in Tallaght (says the biggest blow in of all time) at 2pm at the weekend, I feel like my human rights have been abused. When I go home to Cork and they shut up at 1.20am I can be heard tutting in the corner.
 
Bar the Bull said:
I have changed utterly.

I drink 70% less than I did when I was 27.
I take 100% less Class A drugs.
I have been told by my friends that I am less craic.
I have dropped out of my soccer team. Even before I dropped out of the team, I wasn't as good as I don't have time to keep fit.
Weekends away need to be booked at least a month in advance.
Nights out need to be booked at least a week in advance.
When I do go away / out, I find it difficult to stay awake past two o'clock. I often head back to the hotel / gaff for a night's sleep.
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Nail on the head there Bar - same here - the fooking hangovers when you are out of practise are the pits!!
Hamm, always try and keep a good mix of friends, younger, older, horndogs, chaste, racing / sport lads, bookworms. You will meet up with all sorts that way. Travel to London quite often and dont know how anyone there can accumulate a decent group of friends.
You can never have a girlfriend though or all bets are off with the wife.
 
Hamm said:
...most of them now bring their girlfriends. They don't even like rugby. So, instead of having a chat about the games, a bit of banter and a few beers, you have to ask their gf how things are with them. Just what you want. They are then made leave shortly after the game is finished.
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Don't understand women like that.

I have my own interests and don't need to tag along with him. Nor would I expect him to accompany me to somewhere he's bored (he'd probably drive me potty and I would have to kill him).

If he doesn't trust me by myself, bad luck, I'm going anyway.

Certainly wouldn't dream of sitting in a pub waiting for a game to end and then dragging him off for a bit of "quality time" at the supermarket (that's what seems to be happening around me, anyway).

Surely there's more to a relationship than that?
 
redhead said:
Don't understand women like that.

I have my own interests and don't need to tag along with him. Nor would I expect him to accompany me to somewhere he's bored (he'd probably drive me potty and I would have to kill him).

If he doesn't trust me by myself, bad luck, I'm going anyway.

Certainly wouldn't dream of sitting in a pub waiting for a game to end and then dragging him off for a bit of "quality time" at the supermarket (that's what seems to be happening around me, anyway).

Surely there's more to a relationship than that?
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Could women please refrain from posting on this thread. Is nothing sacred anymore?

That's you too Krizon...
 
On The Bridle said:
Tick tick tick.... I lasted till I was 33 - but that was taking the absolute piss.
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I can confirm OTB did indeed take the absolute p*ss!!

I dont know if times are changing, but is 30 now not a lot younger than 30 was 20 years ago.....if that makes sense. Out of all the lads i played minors with say, which is U-18 for all you Brits, One lad out of 24 is married, same lad has a house...dont think anyone else off the top of my head is even engaged, and were all 26/27 now. Most of us have cars, thats a neccessity when living in rural Ireland, there is no public transport system.

Have been feeling lately that the hangovers are getting worse, that I get tired a lot quicker, and that I dont like going to certain pubs or clubs because they are "too young".
 
Gearoid said:
Could women please refrain from posting on this thread. Is nothing sacred anymore?

That's you too Krizon...
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:D

I was sympathising with the male plight!!!!!

It was just that the title was soooo intriguing - some of the men I've known have had very little reason about them (or to their existence, come to that).
 
del boy said:
Have been feeling lately that the hangovers are getting worse, that I get tired a lot quicker, and that I dont like going to certain pubs or clubs because they are "too young".
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You're just worried about hitting on the wrong women Del - just do what Gearoid does and claim ignorance :)
 
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