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Lee, for all you say you would feel closer if anything, I have to say I side with Simmo. I can't help but feel that this good close loving relationship you have at present couldn't be strengthened by such knowledge, and as such, I would leave alone.
 
Before doing anything you should be very clear to yourself how and why the doubts arose in the first place and what your motives are for wanting an answer to them now.
 
The general concensus is, that a child has the right to know who their biological parent is, surely a parent has the same right ?
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I wouldn't want him to know
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If I am not the true father, I would not be interested in who actually is
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I think you need to think this out a bit more.

If you have a right to know, so does your son and so does the biological father. If you are not prepared to accept this, then go by the stat quoted above that 9 out of 10 (or 7 out of 8) children are fathered by the person who think they are the parent.

You say it wouldn't make a difference to your relationship, yet it does make a difference to something as you've spent hundreds of hours thinking about it. You want to figure out why it is so important to you and what difference it will make.
 
Dave, my response was to the suggestion that the existing relationship would be diminished by knowing, that would not be the case.
Every opinion is helpful but the difficulty is that they are naturally objective.

It has been a case of letting 'sleeping dogs lie' for so long and if it cannot be done without my lad's knowledge, that is how it will probably stay.

Mel, your last few words are the important ones, 'what difference would it make ' ?
which has always been the question I have asked myself.
 
I dont think DNA tests or whatever should be entered into without being very very sure of what the motive and intentions are. Its not just one person affected for a start and It diesnt just end with teh result.

Personally if i had doubts, I would want to know. If my partner had doubts, Id be horrified that he didnt trust me to be truthful to him. If it was the child that wanted to know - then it woul dhave to be thought over carefully before anything waws done.
 
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