And Brightonians are jolly glad it is where it is - out of town, but not so far that people can't go by Park & Ride or plain coach. It's been interesting to drive past it over the past couple of years, and after so many planning difficulties, and see it take shape - and it is a lovely shape.
Unwinding from Stress
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Two large glasses of wine and a good shout later I feel much better than I did an hour ago, almost chilled even. Got back from a long day at work to see a couple WATCHING their dog shit all over the grass in front of my garden and at the bottom of the steps to my flat. Lost it completely when, on saying "excuse me, there's poo on my garden" they said it "absolutely did not" come from their dog [that they let wander around off the lead] having the pair of them, and me, watched the dog squatting and moving around whilst doing it! They then got all arsey, claiming they were 'responsible dog owners' when they clearly watched the dog shit all over the place then legged it quickly in the other direction as I parked. Not only that but the dog 'walked' around whilst doing it so it's spread around and being on grass isn't all visible. Naturally I unwittingly stepped in some and at 8pm on my Saturday night I was trying desperately to remove the dog shit ground into the tread of my boots. There's been a load trod around so tomorrow I'll have to clean up the grass/concrete area/steps in front of my garden with disinfectant. Not only is it spread everywhere and disgusting, there are lots of kids around here and it's a health hazard for them - the primary school is 400 yards away and kids are walking by this area all day long.
Anyway, getting back to the unwinding from stress bit - shouting at this couple then downing a large glass of wine having vented about it helped quite a lot
Anyway, getting back to the unwinding from stress bit - shouting at this couple then downing a large glass of wine having vented about it helped quite a lot
Sheikh
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Anyway, getting back to the unwinding from stress bit - shouting at this couple then downing a large glass of wine having vented about it helped quite a lot
With any Luck they'll be around again next week !
Sheikh
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Wonder if people who lose their tempers all the time don't get so stressed [or perhaps they're just stressed permanently]. I'll do anything to avoid confrontation with people until eventually I just explode. As my daughter pointed out one day when she was still quite young 'mum, I haven't really done anything wrong, it's just that you're in a bad mood'. I didn't lose my temper, but I did stand up to someone the other day who I thought had taken a fair bit of money from me unfairly; I still paid up but at least he knows what I think, and I did stand up to someone at work who was bullying me. I wish I didn't have to get really angry before I could do such things. Losing my temper actually makes me ill. Glad to see Mourayan do well in Australia..followed him the other year in the run up to the Melbourne Cup [how I'd love to go to that] but a bit out of touch with Australian racing now.
Know how you feel, Moehat. I had "WIPE HERE" written on my back until I was well into my thirties and managed to stutter out one day that no, I really couldn't take on another volunteer job. I was amazed that the person asking didn't fall to the floor in either fury or terminal disappointment - "oh, okay, I'll go ask Sue" was all I got. It was just that easy - after decades of not wanting to incur disapproval or be disliked.
I think I can blame Mommie Dearest for all of that: having forever told me, as a single child (no siblings to bat ideas off) that one put others' feelings first, I had no idea where my own were supposed to slot in. I had no sense of self-assertion at all - in fact, the word 'assertive' was used to describe jumped-up, self-important people, not people who had decided what was acceptable to them, and what was not.
I remember thinking 'how awful' when I saw courses on 'assertiveness' training - who'd want to learn to become unpleasantly self-important? But that wasn't what they were about at all - in fact, as some aspects were included in supervisory training I undertook, I realised where I'd been going wrong for so long. Going by my mother's book, you took no prisoners in telling people where to get off - or you put their feelings first. What a contradiction in terms! It wasn't an entire epiphany as it took a while to get used to the idea that I could 'assert my rights' - from saying NO, thank you, to pushy hosts, leery bosses, salespeople, and general manipulation.
So - don't lose your temper and make yourself ill. No-one else will give a damn, anyway. I'd recommend that you get yourself a book on assertiveness or, better still, go on a little course - 'life coaches' often offer these. Try out the calm but absolutely resolute approach on some friends (not in a real situation, but in role play) and see how it feels. For me, it made a huge difference in not becoming swamped by guilt and angry resentment at the same time!
I think I can blame Mommie Dearest for all of that: having forever told me, as a single child (no siblings to bat ideas off) that one put others' feelings first, I had no idea where my own were supposed to slot in. I had no sense of self-assertion at all - in fact, the word 'assertive' was used to describe jumped-up, self-important people, not people who had decided what was acceptable to them, and what was not.
I remember thinking 'how awful' when I saw courses on 'assertiveness' training - who'd want to learn to become unpleasantly self-important? But that wasn't what they were about at all - in fact, as some aspects were included in supervisory training I undertook, I realised where I'd been going wrong for so long. Going by my mother's book, you took no prisoners in telling people where to get off - or you put their feelings first. What a contradiction in terms! It wasn't an entire epiphany as it took a while to get used to the idea that I could 'assert my rights' - from saying NO, thank you, to pushy hosts, leery bosses, salespeople, and general manipulation.
So - don't lose your temper and make yourself ill. No-one else will give a damn, anyway. I'd recommend that you get yourself a book on assertiveness or, better still, go on a little course - 'life coaches' often offer these. Try out the calm but absolutely resolute approach on some friends (not in a real situation, but in role play) and see how it feels. For me, it made a huge difference in not becoming swamped by guilt and angry resentment at the same time!
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He actually ran on Saturday in the $2.5 million Group 1 ATC The BMW over 2400m/12f. He led them up to the bend, and was 2nd to a crappy 40/1 pop in Cedarberg.